I loved this article, Laura. In no place is comparison more a thief of joy than parenting and motherhood — I recall my own childhood as well. In the Chinese expartiate community that my parents brought us up in, competition of how good your kids were, what test scores they had and what colleges they were going to was happening all the time. Like it was toxic for the kids, it was also very toxic for the parents because they were, and in a lot of ways, they still do.