Let Go Of Your Need to Control

You are not God and you can’t be a perfect person trying to make a perfect world.

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“Jesus answered him, ‘What I am doing you do not understand now, but afterward you will understand.’” — John 13:7, ESV.

A lot of us traverse life with a need to control. We try to control ourselves, we try to re-chart the lives of those we spend time with, and we try to fix people like they’re projects instead of their own individuals with needs.

We all have a need to control almost everything in life, and we get down on ourselves when we can’t.

Surrender. I know not everyone does, but I believe in Jesus. I believe that I’m operating on God’s plan, not my own plan. Yes, I have a plan for my life. Yes, I have an idea of where I want to go. But the more I try to control things, the more I self-destruct. The more I lament when things aren’t in my control, and the more I get down on myself when my personal relationships aren’t going well, when I make mistakes, and when my classroom is a dumpster fire. The more I will lament when I’m not happy.

But am I truly in control of my life? To a degree, yes, I am. But to another degree, no. And by Scripture and my faith, God controls my life. I don’t. And a lot of external factors in life control our lives much more…