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We have often heard the phrase that “time heals all wounds,” and although I have my personal misgivings with the expression, time passing is a gift for us all to realize.
Experience is the best educator. We don’t learn anything without experience, and we don’t learn any skill without putting ourselves out there and being baptized by fire. But you cannot have experience without the gift of time.
Time passing has the power to heal some wounds. I have had the wounds of the past assuaged, but not completely healed just by the act of time healing. Time is a prerequisite: it is not the only factor. Just because a wound hurts less doesn’t mean a scar isn’t there — and that scar might always be there.
It’s the same with emotional wounds. Some things, whether it’s the death of a loved one or break up with who you thought was the love of your life, Being reminded viscerally enough of those wounds and being forced to touch those scars, even though they’re invisible, is still painful.
The gift of time passing is that we have life-fulfilling experiences to accompany that time. Now, during the holiday season, the recollection of those experiences can be sweet, but it can also be very, very painful.
