Why Do I Always Lose Things?

Loss is, by nature, disruption to our normal sense of control

Ryan Fan
8 min readJul 20, 2020
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Today, I lost my girlfriend’s keys. I’d driven her car, got her tire fixed, and then brought it back to her apartment. I had only one problem after I exited the car: I didn’t have her keys, which we obviously needed to get back into her apartment.

It took 10 minutes of me frantically searching for the keys, cursing at myself and frazzled, blushing, and flustered at stupid me for always losing things. At the time, I was actually on the phone with Amardeep, who listened to the amusing conversation between myself and my girlfriend as we frantically searched the car and its surroundings.

I’m a perpetual loser — no, I don’t think I’m a loser at life (hopefully), but I lose my possessions all the time. From keys to wallets to phones, I lose valuable possessions to trivial ones like utensils or remotes (maybe I should put remotes in the valuable possessions category because sometimes it can seem like that).

Yes, I’ve asked the whole house “has anyone seen the remote?” and then had it be in my hand — numerous times. You can say that I don’t value my possessions, and I don’t because I try not to as a non-materialistic and non-possession minded person. But sometimes possessions are necessities, and my tendency to lose things…

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Ryan Fan

Believer, Baltimore City IEP Chair, and 2:39 marathon runner. Diehard fan of “The Wire.”